Tuesday, February 13, 2007

Sister Valentine, I Believe in Love

Next up on my list of Valentines is a woman. Yes, a woman dear to my heart.


It's my sister.


She's the grooviest, smartest, bad-assed gardener sister anybody could ask for. As much as I adore my brothers and all their families, there's really nothing like having a sister. And there's really nothing like having a sister like mine. And we have daughters, three weeks apart, a situation that sweetens the deal even more.


She has been through a helluva lot, and she's helped me through some tough times, too. The beauty of us, as readers who are fortunate to have a similar sister connection know, is that we always seem to be able to meet each other where we are. She always has a helpful perspective, a useful way of reframing a situation, and sometimes just that sisterly validation does the trick.


My little sister has been especially critical these last few weeks. I've been stuck. She and Shameless Agitator and other close companions have been part of a short little sidetrip I've taken and during which I got a bit lost. Now I feel I'm coming round back in the right direction, and that all good things are possible.

This song is from the Indigo Girls' new release, Despite Our Differences. A serious appreciation of the songs of these two women are among the zillion things my sister and I share in common, and the recording was a gift from her at Christmas. I Believe In Love is a sort of redemptive, safely in a new place kind of tune. It feels like the right place to leave things, if you know what I mean, the right way to leave things, and that's what I'm doing this Valentine's eve. And it's exactly the kind of tune that helps my sister and me get past that last little rough patch on the road of trouble. That, and having each other to lean on.

Thanks, A. I love you.


When we tried to rework all of this
Each to her rendition
Painted ourselves in a corner
Lost for ideas blindly fishing
For a compliment or kindness
Just to bring us into view
But you could not interpret me and I could not interpret you
I remember that cold morning
When the trees were black with birds
I tried to make out some connection
We were at a loss for words
After all that we've been through
I could not see giving up
Despite the picture of our coffee growing colder in the cups

I want to say that underneath it all
you are my friend
And the way that I fell for you
I'll never fall that way again
I still believe despite our differences
that what we have's enough
And I believe in you and
I believe in love

So we went rolling on down through the years
Taking time off we could steal
Until the thief of things unreconciled
Stuck it's stick into the wheel
Now we're tumbling in a freefall
No one's gonna go unscathed
But it's not because you held back and its not how I behaved

I want to say that underneath it all you are my friend
And the way that I fell for you
I'll never fall that way again
I still believe despite our differences that what we have's enough
I believe in you and I believe in love

There are avenues and supplements and books stacked on the shelf
Labyrinths of recovery in search of our best self
But most of what will happen now is way out of our hands
So just let it go and see where it lands

I want to say that underneath it all you are my friend
And the way that I fell for you
I'll never fall that way again
I still believe despite our differences
that what we have's enough
I believe in you and I believe in love
I believe in you and I believe in love

2 Comments:

At February 14, 2007 4:54 PM, Blogger Shannon said...

And I am glad to have gotten to know your sister better over the last year as well. I feel bad about having missed her specialness for so many years.

 
At February 14, 2007 10:17 PM, Blogger Mando Mama said...

No need to feel bad! We're all here now and together and it's wonderful to have our family whole with wonderful people like you.

 

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